Let’s face it. You’re really, really special. No one else has ever been you, and no one else possibly could become you. So you are stuck with your special privilege, and your special difficulties.
Whether our particular circumstances, natures, and abilities are assets or liabilities entirely depends on how we inhabit our own special specialness. So, without further ado, here is a brief guide on:
How Being Special Can Make or Break Us:
SPECIAL YAY: You can use your particular talents to enrich and lift your family and community. Right on!
SPECIAL NAY: You can use your particular gifts and talents to feel superior or misunderstood by your family and community. You poor, tortured genius.
SPECIAL YAY: You can use your difficult circumstances to develop empathy for others.
SPECIAL NAY: You can use your difficult circumstances to shut people down and dismiss their ideas, because they can’t possibly understand.
SPECIAL YAY: You can use your special privilege to stand up for others.
SPECIAL NAY: You can use your special privilege to assume others are just lazy or undeserving.
SPECIAL YAY: You can look at your personal or family history and draw strength from seeing trial overcome. Did that happen? Yeah. Was it awful? Are things better now, despite the probability that they aren’t 100% better?? Whoa, look at us, we’re overcomers!
SPECIAL NAY: You can look and your personal or family history as one unforgivable catastrophe after another, that cannot be healed from, because victim=super super special.
SPECIAL YAY: You can use your experience with specialness to appreciate that everyone around you also has unique skills, talents, and perspective. That perhaps everyone is as special as you, even if they’re not special like you. You can find unity in the “as,” not the “like.”
SPECIAL NAY: You can be so alone in your super specialness that the only thing for it is to leave all these sheep who don’t understand you and find refuge in a community of people who are all super super special, just like you.
Whatever our privilege or difficulty, whatever our talent or struggle, how we leverage our circumstances determines whether we grow in love and connection and truth, or shrink in pettiness, isolation, insecurity, and vanity.
May we forever choose Special Yay.